Worry gets into all the crevices of our lives. We worry about our jobs, our kids, our relationships, money, and a million other things every single day. It’s no wonder we feel like we’re not getting things done the way we’d like.
I remember desperately wanting my own apartment once I was 18 and "grown". At 22, I finally had a job where I could move out, pay my bills and still save a little for a car. After months of searching, I found the cutest apartment within my price range and close to public transportation. Within a few month, I began this obsessive worrying about not being able to cover my bills, to the point where I would disconnect all electrical appliances in my apartment except for the fridge. I even set an impractical budget of $25 per week for myself. Instead of buying juice, I bought Kool-Aid, which sat in my fridge until it turned from red to bluish green, because I didn't like it, but I didn't want to waste the 25 cents.
My excessive worrying caused me to distance myself from my loved ones. Despite their well-meaning advice to relax and stop worrying, I was unable to figure out how to do so at the time. My 22 year old self, didn't have enough life experience to know how to get the the bottom of the real issue.
Fortunately, I have reached a point where I no longer experience such intense worry. Over time, I implemented methods to transform my life and finally stop worrying. This method begins with asking yourself questions to help you prioritize what is really going on and how to address it.
These are the six questions I ask myself.
1. What Are You Really Worried About?
Worrying is a common human experience, but did you know that sometimes it's just a cover-up? Yes, worry can be sneaky and hide an underlying issue that needs attention. However, the good news is that with a little contemplation and asking the right questions, you can uncover the true cause behind your worries.
Once you have identified the real problem causing your worry, tackling it becomes much easier. Break it down into smaller, manageable steps or goals that you can work towards. This approach helps in gaining a sense of control over the situation and boosts your confidence in overcoming the issue at hand.
2. Is This Even Possible To Stop Worrying?
Worry inflates everything to monster proportions. If your worry seems slightly ridiculous, it probably is. Take a step back and ask yourself just how likely this outcome is. Worry can’t stand up under this kind of scrutiny.
3. Is This Something I Can Control?
We’re very good at worrying about something we can’t change. Seriously, what difference does it make if it snows tomorrow? Nothing we do can keep the flakes from falling. Accept that sometimes you’re just going to have to go with the flow and adapt to the circumstances.
4. Does this Affect Me Today?
Worries about the future can really derail your life today. If you’re worried about something far off, it’s time to take a step back.
Ask yourself a fundamental follow-up question if you’re concerned about the future: “Is there something I can do today that will prevent this outcome tomorrow?” If so, now you have a plan of action. Get to it!
5. Am I Spending Too Much Time?
Obsessive worry doesn’t help anyone. If you find yourself circling back to the same concern over and over, you might need help breaking out of this cycle. Consider talking to someone, such as a good friend or even a counselor or trained professional, to help you break out of this vicious cycle.
6. Why Do I Care What Others Think?
If you’re worried about the opinions of others, why? If you’re concerned about impressing your boss, there are better ways to do this than worrying. More often than not, though, you’re going to find most people’s opinions really don’t matter. Don’t let them get to you.
Once you have the answers to these questions, you’ll find it’s easy to get your thoughts back on track. Worry becomes a thing of the past when we’re mindful of it, and don’t let it become obsessive. Imagine the difference a life without so much worry will make.
In conclusion, worrying is a common but unnecessary aspect of life that can be conquered with the right mindset and strategies. By recognizing the negative impact worry has on our mental and physical well-being, we can take proactive steps to change our thought patterns. Through practicing mindfulness, seeking support from loved ones, and focusing on the present moment, we can break free from the cycle of worry and embrace a more positive and fulfilling life. So let us choose to let go of worries that hold us back, and instead embrace a future filled with hope and joy. It's time to change our lives for the better and stop worrying – we deserve it!
Don't miss out on tips, freebies, and insightful content! Join our newsletter community today and unlock a world of information to enhance your knowledge and make informed decisions.